Learning about the difference between adoption myth and fact is so important to birth mothers, adoptive families, and even society. We hear stories of women who were taken advantage of during their adoption process or negative experiences. Adoptions of the past left a stigma that modern adoption is turning around by educating, sharing, and celebrating adoption.
Our goal in sharing this information is to help increase adoption awareness and truth in society so that prospective birth mothers and birth mothers no longer have such negative experiences. If you are a prospective birth mother, please educate yourself on adoption before committing to a specific agency or adoptive family.
To help, here are some additional important facts to know for a successful adoption.
5. A child is never “too old to be adopted.”
There is no “too old” when it comes to choosing adoption. If you have already given birth to your baby, you can still choose adoption. If you have been a mother for a period of time, you can still choose adoption. There is no age-limit for choosing adoption.
6. You CANNOT get paid for adoption in the United States.
No matter what anyone tells you, you cannot get paid for adoption in the United States. Exchanging a baby for money is considered “human trafficking,” which is a big no-no in the U.S. However, there is what the adoption community calls “financial assistance.”
Depending on the laws of the state that you reside in, you may be able to have an adoption agency pay for some of your living expenses, as well as all of your adoption-related expenses. If you live in a state in which there is little to no financial assistance allowed in state law, there are still other ways to receive adoption financial assistance. The best person to talk to about allowable expenses in your state is your adoption professional. Also, read the laws yourselfto make sure that the adoption agency is giving you proper information.
7. Prospective birth mothers remain in legal control of their child up until giving their adoption consent.
It’s important to note that you can change your mind about anything regarding your adoption up until you sign your legal consent to place your child for adoption. There will be a revocation period after signing your consent. Once both of these steps have been finalized, your adoption process will be complete.
This means that a prospective birth mother can change her mind about things like choosing adoption in the first place, who will adopt her baby, and who will or will not be present at the delivery of her baby. These decisions are all part of what makes up an “adoption plan.” Make sure your adoption plan is what you want, and don’t let anyone pressure you into making decisions that you are uncomfortable with.
If you are ready to begin your adoption journey or feeling uncomfortable in your current adoption process, or if you just need someone to talk to, please contact an adoption professional such as Adoption Choices of Kansas. Our compassionate adoption specialists will answer your call and your questions!
And remember, Adoption Choices of Kansas provides all the adoption legal services and termination of parental rights.