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3 Fears About Open Adoption and Why You Don’t Need to Fear Them

By Maxwell Dallinga

When looking for pregnant help or adoption help, you may be presented with the option of open adoption. Open adoption can be great for mothers looking to stay in contact with their child after the adoption process. However, it can also bring about many fears. These fears can feel overwhelming. You may be fearful of what a post-adoption arrangement will look like for you. 

However, open adoption can also be greatly beneficial for everyone involved in your adoption. Knowing your fears and why you might not need to have them can help you make the right choice for you. Through Adoption Choices of Kansas, you can come to terms with the benefits of your open adoption 

What is Open, Semi-Open, and Closed Adoption?

There are three types of adoption: open, semi-open, and close adoption. Listed below is a brief overview of each.

Open Adoption:

This choice allows for you to stay in direct contact with your child after they have been adopted. All forms of contact are allowed and can be decided between you and your child’s adoptive family. Open adoption is best for mothers looking to remain in their child’s life without the presence of a third-party mediator.

Semi-Open Adoption:

The semi-open adoption process allows you to remain in contact with your child. However, all forms of contact have to go through a third-party mediator. This ensures each party’s boundaries are respected. Semi-open adoption is generally more limiting. This form of adoption is best for birth mothers who wish to remain more distantly attached to their child’s life.

Closed Adoption:

This form of adoption means that you will not be able to contact your child after your adoption is completed. This option is good for birth mothers who wish to remain outside of their child’s life.

For many, open adoption is the preferred choice. Knowing that you can stay in contact with your child during the adoption process can be comforting and ideal. Yet choosing an open adoption through a private adoption service can feel scary. Understanding this, it is important to both acknowledge and understand these fears as much as possible.

Three Fears About Open Adoption in Kansas

When considering putting your baby for adoption, open adoption may seem scary for many reasons. It can present a number of perceived challenges to any birth mother. These fears- while justified- don’t need to be debilitating. Here are three fears you may be feeling and why they might not need to be fears.

  1. My Child or Child’s Adoptive Family Will Resent Me

If you fear that your child or your child’s adoptive family will resent you, it is completely normal. However, it is important to remember that the entire adoption process is about love. This means that everyone involved knows that you made the choice to adopt because you love your child. As well, you have agreed to open adoption, meaning that you have agreed to a future of communication and support. Thus, you can feel more secure throughout your adoption.

  1. My Boundaries Will Not Be Respected

You might fear that an adoptive family or child will not respect your boundaries. This is a valid fear. However, in choosing open adoption, you also get to set flexible boundaries according to your needs. And, should you feel as if you need to set legal boundaries, you will always have the option to do so.

  1. I Will Be Cut Off From My Child’s Life

Getting cut out of your child’s life can be devastating to think about. However, it is important to remember that you are making a formal arrangement to stay in contact with your child. Unless there is a radical change of heart by either party, which is highly unlikely, this agreement should be honored. 

Ultimately, having fears about open American adoption is normal. Yet knowing how to come to terms with these fears can be very helpful in knowing what’s right for your adoption.

Debunking Your Fears about Adoption with Adoption Choices of Kansas

Are you experiencing an unplanned pregnancy? Looking for a private adoption service? If so, look no further than Adoption Choices of Kansas. With numerous adoption services, resources, and support channels, you can feel at ease during your adoption process.

We understand how difficult the adoption process can feel. Especially when choosing open adoption, you may feel overwhelmed by the process. However, you are actively making the choice of love for your child. Knowing this, we are here to support you in any way we can during the process. Offering medical aid and advice, support groups, and professional counseling, we are here for you.

If you are interested in learning more, contact Adoption Choices of Kansas to talk about your adoption plan today.

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