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3 Hard Things About Placing Baby for Adoption

By Cale Unitas Macke

Placing a baby for adoption is a profoundly personal and often emotionally taxing decision that can evoke a complex array of feelings, including grief, loss, sadness, guilt, and uncertainty. This article delves into the emotional landscape of placing a baby for adoption and offers birth mothers a compassionate and supportive guide to acknowledging, understanding and navigating these challenging emotions. By emphasizing the importance of self-compassion, promoting self-care practices, and connecting birth mothers with supportive resources, our hope is to empower birth mothers. You will find strength in your resilience and discover a path forward filled with love, acceptance, and healing.

Adoption Choices of Kansas is an open adoption agency equipped with local counselors and ample resources, ready to help birth mothers and adoptive families in their adoption journey. 

Placing A Baby For Adoption And The Feelings That Come With It

Giving a child up for adoption is a deeply personal and often complicated decision. It can evoke a range of complex emotions, from the positive side of the spectrum to the negative. Acknowledging and accepting these intricate emotions is crucial for healing and personal growth. Suppressing or denying these feelings can lead to emotional distress and hinder the healing process. Below, we’ll take a look at three reasons why placing a baby can be difficult and offer a few (of many) reasons for hope.

Deciding On An Adoption Plan And Adoptive Family

We know how strenuous choosing an adoption plan can be when considering adoption. It can be very overwhelming going through the process of selecting an adoptive family—alone or otherwise—that shares your values. Even settling on the right adoption agency from the list of adoption agencies in Kansas can be a bit overwhelming. At times, it may feel like a never-ending process that turns up more questions than answers. However, there is no reason to worry or fret—Adoption Choices of Kansas offers you unceasing support throughout the process, pairing you with a counselor to provide you with answers to all of your questions. After deciding which plan works best for you and your situation, your personal counselor will prepare a list of potential family profiles that align with your values and standards. Every family profile shown to you is carefully screened and meticulously background checked, ensuring the safety of the child and peace of mind for you. Throughout the entirety of the process you’ll have a champion by your side willing and able to support you. From selecting an adoption plan that fits your needs to placement, you’ll never have to endure any challenge alone.

Dealing With Your Emotions After Adoption

There will be a flood of emotions you’ll likely experience throughout the adoption process. As mentioned above, recognizing these emotions—both good and bad—and accepting them is necessary for continued growth and healing. This, of course, may seem easier said than done, given the impact of your decision. One way to combat these often alienating feelings is to join a local community of like-minded people. Seeking support from trusted friends, family members, therapists, or adoption support groups can provide a safe and nurturing space. It allows you to express your emotions, receive guidance, and connect you with others who understand your experiences. Since a lot of emotions force you to battle alone inwardly, having a shared outward focus can be therapeutic and greatly beneficial to your health and recovery. 

Loss Of Interest And How To Regain Your Passions Post Adoption

Going through potentially traumatic experiences—such as an unplanned pregnancy or the weighing of decisions when considering adoption—can lead to the loss of feeling like yourself. This can include things like a diminished interest in the things you enjoy doing, such as hobbies or other activities. These experiences can also dampen your passions since you have begun to carry the heavy burden of your thoughts. However, by continuously exploring your interests and reclaiming your passions, you can keep what birth mothers feel has been lost. You’ll find solace, joy, and a sense of purpose amidst the emotional turmoil of placing a child for adoption. It is so important not to lose what makes you, you. 

Ways to Cope With The Difficulties That May Come From Adoption

As we’ve discussed, considering adoption can be an emotionally taxing process, and placing your child can be equally so. However, being aware and accepting of your emotions throughout the process will allow you to renew yourself. Finding healthy outlets to share your experiences and learn from those around will also further develop emotionally. Keeping that in mind while regularly exploring your interests and refusing to give up on any of your passions will allow you to maximize your growth and minimize your hurt. 

If you are a birth mother considering adoption, in need of information regarding adoption options, or have any questions about adoption, please visit Adoption Choices of Kansas today.

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