6 Types of People on a Birth Mother’s Adoption Team
While adoption can bring relief for you if you face an unplanned pregnancy and are not ready to be a parent, the process can also be overwhelming at times. However, having a strong adoption team as a birth mother who can provide you with the support you need along the way can make the process go more smoothly.
Each birth mother will have her own unique support system depending on her needs, but here are some people you might want to consider including in yours.
- An Adoption Specialist
One of the first people you might think of when putting together an adoption team is a licensed adoption specialist. This person is a key player in your adoption journey as he or she is the one who is with you every step of the way to provide guidance, match you with prospective adoptive families, and answer any questions you have. Because they are so in tune with your needs, they are in a position to be a cheerleader for you so that you can be reassured in your choice.
When you choose Adoption Choices of Kansas as your adoption agency, our specialists on staff are here for you to listen to and accommodate your needs, so that your adoption journey is a successful one.
- Your Doctor
When the time comes for you to deliver, you will want to make sure you are in the hands of a solid medical team. Picking and sticking with an OB/GYN you feel comfortable with and confident in will make the day of delivery less stressful. This is the person you are relying on to make sure your pregnancy is a healthy one, so it’s important to have a doctor who is attentive to your health needs and who is not dismissive of any concerns you might have during your pregnancy.
- A Professional Adoption Counselor
Going through the adoption process is a life-changing event that can feel like an emotional roller coaster at times. A professional adoption counselor may be able to help you navigate complex and sometimes conflicting emotions during this time. They can also help you re-frame anything making you feel anxious, regretful, or depressed so that you can better manage these emotions and eventually find peace and closure. An adoption counselor can also help you learn about specific coping methods you can put into practice to help you get through each day.
Adoption Choices of Kansas has wonderful and accessible counseling resources for you if you ever find yourself in need of them.
- Family and Friends
One of the most reliable sources of support throughout your adoption journey is your friends and family. They are the ones who know you best as they are present in your life before, during, and after your adoption. Because of this, they serve as important constants in your life and can provide you with a sense of stability during this time of uncertainty. If you find yourself needing to get your mind off the more difficult parts of your adoption journey, plan activities with your loved ones so you have something to look forward to. As they help you through this challenging time, they are also deepening their relationship with you, which can have a profound impact on the rest of your life.
- Other Birth Mothers
When going through the adoption process, there might be times where you feel alone and not fully understood, despite the good intentions and support of others in your life. If you seek the company of those who have experienced what you are going through right now, consider joining a birth mother support group. Former and current birth mothers have a unique perspective and insights that others might not have. They are also in a position to act as a mentor to you as they pass down the lessons they learned to help get them through their own adoption journeys.
- The Adoptive Parents
Just as you are on your adoption journey, the adoptive parents are on their own journey that has its own unique joys and struggles. This is a major turning point in all of your lives, and being there for each other can make the transition go more smoothly for everyone. Showing empathy and gratitude toward each other can serve as a solid foundation for a beautiful relationship to develop in the years to come. Through your team effort, you are helping each other reach significant life goals in the hope of having a better future.
As they help you provide a supportive and loving environment for the child you will deliver, you are giving them the gift of being parents which is especially meaningful if they could not achieve that dream on their own.
Let Us be Part of Your Adoption Team
At Adoption Choices of Kansas, our goal is to ensure that your adoption journey is one you can be proud of and look back on with no regrets. If you need help getting started with assembling your adoption team as a birth mother, our incredible staff of adoption specialists and counselors are ready to put in the hard work to give your adoption story a happy ending.
Meet the Author: Mary DeStefano is an Ohio native currently living in northern Virginia and works in the litigation consulting industry where she has experience in antitrust, product liability, and mass torts matters. She holds a B.A. in Economics (‘15) and an M.A. in Applied Economics (‘16) from the University of Cincinnati.
Mary finds great meaning in wielding the written word to develop impactful narratives and to help people stay informed. In her spare time, Mary can be found beachcombing and going on other adventures with her dog along the shores of the Chesapeake Bay. She also has an affinity for antiquing and loves a good 80’s movie marathon.