Adoption Is an Option: I Am Pregnant, and I am not Ready To Parent
Finding out you’re pregnant is a moment of celebration for many people. Moments of sharing the news with family can be exciting, and of course, there are baby showers to celebrate. However, pregnancy is not always a joyous occasion. For many women, the news of a pregnancy can be shocking and even anxiety-inducing.
Half of all pregnancies in the US were unintended, so many women like you were not planning on becoming parents. Society places a lot of pressure on women to become mothers, so you may feel ashamed that you do not want to become mothers. You should not be ashamed of what you feel because everyone understands happiness and fulfillment in life.
However, finding out you’re pregnant means that you have to decide how you want to handle your pregnancy. You can always choose to care for your baby, terminate the pregnancy, or choose adoption. At Adoption Choices of Kansas, we are always here to help you with your Wichita adoption journey. By choosing adoption, you are not only providing your baby the chance at creating a family but for waiting families as well.
Putting a Child Up for Adoption
The adoption first begins with contacting your local adoption agency. By getting into contact with an adoption agency, you’ll be able to work with our adoption specialists, who are open and honest. Our adoption specialists have worked with hundreds of women like you, so we understand how to help you so that you can make the best decisions for your adoption.
Once you get to know your adoption specialist, they will be there to help you create an adoption plan. An adoption plan is basically where you will write out everything you want your adoption to look like. You will get to consider if you want to maintain contact with your child after the adoption, possible privacy concerns if you establish contact, and the type of family you want to raise your child. These are just a few of the things you can decide upon in your adoption plan.
Once the adoption plan has been written out, you’ll get the opportunity to explore all the waiting families’ profiles to find the best match for your baby and your needs. During this time, you will have access to financial aid and other resources to help you during your pregnancy. Then, once the family has been chosen, all you have to do is wait until your delivery date.
Choosing Not to Parent
In a world where parenthood is regarded as the ultimate stage in life where you’ll find your purpose, it can be difficult to choose not to be a parent, especially if everyone around your age is becoming a parent or your parents are encouraging you to have children.
At Adoption Choices of Kansas, we want to emphasize that it’s okay not to want to be a parent. Sometimes, choosing not to be a parent is a selfless choice. Your worth as a woman is also not determined by whether you are a parent or not. Everyone’s life is different, so that means you shouldn’t feel any guilt if you do not want to be a parent.
Instead of feeling guilt, you can focus on how you want your future to look. An adoption would provide a loving family for your baby while you can maintain a relationship with your baby and their adoptive family. If you are dedicated to becoming a full-time parent, raising your child in your own care may be the right decision. You should get to know your own wants and needs before you decide how to handle your pregnancy.
Finding Adoption Support
It can be difficult to navigate your life when everyone seems to shun women who find themselves unexpectedly pregnant. But, again, many women like you face a situation similar to yours. As a result, many resources are available to help you during your pregnancy.
If you find that dealing with your emotions alone during your pregnancy is difficult, you should try reaching out to those you trust and love. By talking to those closest to you about your situation, you can relieve some stress from your life. Talking to someone else about your situation can also bring a fresh perspective to your thoughts, and they may be able to guide you on the best options for your pregnancy.
If you find that you can’t reach out to those closest to you, you can always look for local support groups in your area. With support groups, you’ll be able to talk with other people facing a similar situation. You can talk to your medical advisor because they may be able to connect you to more local resources.
The most important thing to remember during your pregnancy is that people out there want to help you. All you have to do is reach out and ask for it.
Choosing adoption is not giving up. If you need unplanned pregnancy help now, Adoption Choices of Kansas serves birth parents statewide and beyond. We can help with teen pregnancy, financial assistance, difficult situations, and more. Please call us or text us to learn more! Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071
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