Adoption is an important decision, and ultimately a mother’s choice. If at any point in the pregnancy you feel you should parent the child instead of the adoptive parents, yes, you have the right to change your mind. Also, if you feel unsure about the adoptive parent or parents, you may raise your concerns with your adoption professional, to decide whether or not this is the right home for your child.
If you need to talk to someone immediately about your options, let us help you: get connected to an Adoption Choices of Kansas or Missouri adoption professional.
After the baby is born, you have a determined amount of time to decide about the adoption, in accordance with your state laws. Typically, waiting periods range between 3 to 10 days after you sign the official paperwork. If you do change your mind, the case will be taken to court and a judge will decide who will be awarded parental custody of the child. The longer you wait to decide, the harder it may be to convince the court that you should have custody of the child. Once the court has awarded legal custody to the adoptive parents, you can no longer change your mind.
Here are some of the most common deciding factors:
- You cannot support a child financially, or you do not have a safe or encouraging environment to raise a child in. This may mean that your parents won’t allow you to live at home with your baby. You may not even have a home at the moment. Or maybe the baby’s father may not be prepared provide child support, and you’ll be raising a child alone.
- You feel you are too young to be a parent. If you are a teenager, you may be physically ready to have a child, but you aren’t emotionally and financially prepared to take on the role as a parent.
- You already have children, and you’re not in a stage of your life where you feel you can raise an unexpected second, third, or fourth child.
- Raising a child will disrupt your plans for the future. Simply, it might not be the right time in your life to have a child. Maybe you wanted to play sports, or have a career, or travel around the world, or finish high school or college. Having a child will change all of this.
- You want a better life for your child than the one you can provide. Adoption is ultimately a selfless choice, where you place the needs of your child above your own. Raising a child in a one-parent home, or a home with many financial challenges might not be the ideal life you had in mind.
- You cannot go through with an abortion, or it is too late in the pregnancy to have an abortion, but are unprepared to raise the child yourself.
- You feel life is a gift, and know there are many couples who cannot have their own biological children, and would love your baby as their own.
Contact Adoption Choices of Kansas and Missouri by calling us at 1-877-903-4488 or email us! You can also text us at 316-209-2071.