Choosing Adoption After You’ve Been Sexually Assaulted
Here at Adoption Choices of Kansas, we stand and support victims of sexual assault. We will never understand what you have experienced but are here for moral and emotional support. We can provide professional help if needed by providing counselors and covering the financial aspects.
First, we would like to say you are a survivor, and we respect you for the obstacles you have overcome by facing your trauma head-on. You are an amazing individual that will always be stronger than most.
To understand more of what we do, we are a private adoption agency located in Kansas and serve birth mothers, adoptive parents, and, more importantly, children. We are aware that in some cases of sexual assault, an unborn child is produced. In those cases, you are probably facing a tough dilemma of terminating the unplanned pregnancy or choosing from other options. Such as raising the child as your own though the child was forced upon you or adoption.
If choosing adoption, we, Adoption Choices of Kansas, can help you during such a time with adoption. Also, we can assist with the emotion that arrives regarding the adoption itself and the fact that the child you are carrying was produced by a violent act and forced upon you.
I Was Sexually Assaulted and Now Am Pregnant, but I Cannot Raise This Child. What Are My Options?
You never asked for the unborn child and are now faced with the decision to raise the child or make other tough decisions. As you have said, you don’t want the child, which is completely understandable. You have two options that you can choose from, and if seeking more information about them, you can come to us.
One option is to terminate the pregnancy early on instead of carrying the child for nine months.
The other option is adoption which is a legal process when you carry your child for the full nine months of pregnancy. But, once the child is born, they will be raised by their adoptive parents and in their care.
Should you choose to pursue an Wichita adoption, you can come to us Adoption Choices of Kansas. We can support you in multiple different ways and go at your pace without making the ultimate decisions for you. We are like family, and you can become part of our family with mental and physical support present.
Though My Baby is Being Adopted While Carrying the Child, I Keep Reliving My Sexual Assault. Where can I Seek Help?
We will never understand what you are going through but can understand why you are reliving this traumatic experience. Even if you weren’t pregnant, when a negative event happens like that to you, it is not your fault for thinking and going back to the event of your sexual assault.
Since you are pregnant, it is normal to think and reflect on the damaging experience you have out of someone else’s selfishness and being a horrible being.
Here we offer professional help with all expenses covered during and after the pregnancy. We know we can never mentally wipe what happened to you out of your mind, but we can find someone that will help you deal with and face your sexual assault. You might not want to, but talking to someone and starting out slowly can help you a grave deal even if the session doesn’t start out long or in-depth.
Am I a Bad Person for Wanting to Terminate My Pregnancy Instead of Seeking Adoption?
Absolutely not. You are a survivor, and the baby you are pregnant with was forced on you. Therefore, wanting to terminate the baby is understandable and can stop you from constantly reliving the traumatic event.
Never doubt yourself, and if you are looking for support and someone that doesn’t judge you, Adoption Choices of Kansas is here. The adoption process can be lengthy and traumatic in itself, so we can understand why you wouldn’t want to put your baby up for adoption.
If you have people judging you ignore them because they are not in your shoes. They can’t speak for you when they have never been through what you’ve been through.
Our Adoption Agency is Here For You
Always remember that what happened to you is not your fault. You were not at the wrong place at the wrong time. You should not have to have been more careful and not wear a certain outfit. This person committed a heinous act against you and they should be held accountable for their actions.
If you were a victim of a sexual assault, here are a few resources you can reach out to the outside of our agency:
- National Sexual Assault Hotline: Call 800.656.HOPE
- National Sexual Assault Online Chat and list of resources can be found here
- The Kansas Crisis Helpline 1-888-363-2287
If you are looking to put your baby up for adoption that came from sexual assault and have any questions, please contact us. We are here for you and want to support you during and after the adoption agency. After facing a traumatic event alone and stuck making a serious decision, you don’t deserve to be alone anymore. We operate 24/7 with qualified staff that can serve you at any time.
For adoption resources or to begin your adoption journey, birth parents can visit us at Adoption Choices of Arizona or call or text us at 1-480-900-5520. If you are a prospective adoptive family hoping to adopt a baby, please instead, visit us here!
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