For any birth mother, choosing adoption is a difficult decision for several reasons. It can be an incredibly emotional time, especially if the mother is faced with an unplanned pregnancy. The surprise and uncertainty can make it hard to decide what option is best for you. You might be questioning what to do, how long you have to make a choice, what will be best for you and your baby. If you are considering adoption, it is important to know your rights and how these may impact your decision.
Because of the emotions surrounding the decision to place your child for adoption, it can be difficult to know what you want to do. This is normal. Something that many people don’t consider is that you can decide on adoption at any point during your pregnancy. It is important to know that it is never too late to choose adoptions. Whether it be in your first month or ninth month, adoption is always an option. In fact, there is no age requirement to place a child for adoption. While it is uncommon, you can place your child for adoption at any age.
Another potential fear for birth mothers is that if they wait too long, they will not be able to find adoptive parents. This is untrue. There are many resources for last-minute adoptions. If you decide to place your child for adoption, you will be able to find or be put in contact with an agency. Typically, they have a short list of prospective families and they will help pair you with adoptive parents that share similar values and beliefs as you. No matter how late into the pregnancy you are, you will be able to find a good match for your child.
Like anything, there are many positives and negatives to a late adoption. For some women, waiting to choose adoption allows the birth mother to feel more confident and secure in her decision. Without the stress of feeling rushed, a birth mother might feel more emotionally prepared to place her child for adoption. However, late adoption has the potential to make the birth mother suffer from more grief because she had longer to bond with her child. Every birth mother will feel and handle this situation differently. It is important to know yourself and understand the consequences of waiting to make this decision.
Finally, because adoption is such a major decision, it is important to think about your options and decide when you’re ready. Take your time and ignore any external pressure because ultimately, it is your choice.