Counseling for Birth Mothers to Find Purpose After Adoption

By Jessica Hall

Coming home after giving birth is a moment many birth mothers don’t think about. They are so focused on creating a detailed adoption plan that they haven’t thought about what comes post-placement. It can be shocking to the body. Physically, birth mothers are healing from giving birth to the baby. Emotionally, it can feel like riding a roller coaster. There may be days of grieving the separation from the baby. And other days may bring a sense of relief that the process is over. Some days, they feel both.

Adoption Choices of Kansas brings a holistic approach to the adoption process. Adoption services don’t have to end after the child goes home with the adoptive family. If you feel that you could benefit from counseling or support groups, we’re here to help give you that access. You have a whole life ahead of you. Keep reading for information on available post-placement services to help you reach your potential.  

 Adoption Counseling Post-Placement 

In today’s society, counseling isn’t quite as taboo as it was in the past. Reaching out for professional help has proven to help thousands of people around the world find happiness. It’s no different for birth mothers. By using counseling services through adoption agencies, you can receive care from counselors specialized in adoption. Having specialized training in adoption is incredibly important. Professionals with this training are able to understand the nuances of adoption. They are familiar with what you’ve been through and the impact it may have had on you. Most importantly, they’ll know the words or phrases that could be potentially triggering for you. 

After you’ve found adoption agencies near me, make sure they have a counselor they can provide or suggest. We have many counselors available through our Wichita adoption center who are ready to meet your needs if you are ready. 

Support Groups for a Kansas Adoption

Planning an adoption can be primarily focused on the wants and needs of the birth mother and the adoptive family. Unfortunately, birth mothers tend to lose themselves in the details of the adoption at the moment. Trying to figure out how they feel at the time and what they want at the time. Never really thinking about whom they want to be after the adoption is finalized. Or how they’re going to do it. It can feel like you’re in a hole that you didn’t know you were digging and don’t know how to get out of.

 Some birth mothers feel embarrassed that they hadn’t planned further than a few days, months, or maybe a year. Having a support group of peers to reflect on your experience will help you realize it’s very common. Adoption is a big decision. Taking it seriously was incredibly selfless and courageous of you to do. If you can do that, you can do whatever and be whomever you want. We’ve seen countless birth mothers build lasting friendships over the years through our Wichita adoption center. They build each other up and help each other get back to feeling like themselves again. 

 Being a “birth mother” is a new identity, but it’s not your whole identity. You’re a complex person. A being that has multiple interests, needs, wants, dreams, and talents. Surrounding yourself with people similar in age can help you regain your sense of self. It can help remind you of things you love and help you get back to doing them. You know the saying, “that’s what friends are for.” Well, support groups can be exactly like that. 

Adoption is Life-Changing, not Life-Hindering 

Finding out you’re pregnant may have felt like your life was over. It’s not, and it doesn’t have to mean you have nothing else to plan for. Now that you’ve decided how to give your baby up for adoption, you can create new goals. It starts with some big questions. Who do you want to be? What career do you see yourself having? How do you achieve all of these things? 

 Adoption Choices of Kansas has counseling and support group services around Kansas for birth mothers like you. By building extensive adoption plans, we help ensure you’re on your way to a promising future. A future that you’re excited about living. 

Get your life back on track with professional help. Choosing adoption is not giving up. If you need unplanned pregnancy help now, Adoption Choices of Kansas serves birth parents statewide and beyond. We can help with teen pregnancy, financial assistance, difficult situations, and more. Please call us or text us to learn more! Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071