Grief Associated with Kansas Adoption

Experiencing grief and loss after your adoption is normal and valid. Adoption is hard decision and you are making a brave sacrifice to give your baby the best life possible. If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and spending a lot of time researching “giving a baby up” for adoption, how to deal with adoption grief, how it feels to go through the adoption process, and more, don’t worry, you are not alone!

Every woman’s adoption experience and every woman’s feelings after private adoption in Kansas are different. There is no wrong or right feeling when it comes to adoption. Just know that no matter which unplanned pregnancy option you make – to parent, to terminate, or to choose adoption, there are resources and professionals to help you deal with the complex emotions of the grief associated with Kansas adoptions.

What does it feel like to place a baby for adoption?

Here is a list of some common feelings that many birth parents experience. As you’re going through this list, keep in mind it’s okay if you feel all of them or if you feel none of them. Also, if you feel other one!

1. Guilt doesn’t mean you’ve made the wrong decision.
   It’s not easy to make a Kansas adoption plan for your child. With grief, some women experience feelings of guilt after placing a baby for adoption. Even if you know it’s the right decision, you may feel selfish or that it’s wrong to have placed your child with another family. Due to persistent negative adoption language and the stigma of choosing adoption, you might feel like you are “giving away” or “giving up on” your baby or on yourself as a mother. But adoption is a brave, loving and selfless choice — it’s not “giving up” at all. Although you might see this phrase used throughout the article, it is not one we agree with. It is simply a way for us to connect with women at their understanding of adoption and educate them on a healthier and more positive way to think about adoption.
2. You will have highs and lows / ups and downs.
   Every birth mother grieves adoption in her own way and in her own time. Many birth mothers move through the stages of grief and experience feelings like: relief, anger, grief, loss, sadness, happiness, few, regret, and joy. These are all normal feelings. Nothing is wrong with you when you feel up. Nothing is wrong with you when you feel down. Letting yourself fully experience each feeling is the best way to move through the adoption grief process toward acceptance. And no matter how you’re feeling, remember that it’s always possible to reach out to an adoption specialist if you’re looking for someone to speak with.If you need adoption help now, please call us at 877-903-4488, text us at 316-209-2071, or visit us at Adoption Choices of Kansas.
3. You can reach a place of acceptance
   Acceptance is usually the last stage of what it feels like to give a child up for adoption during the grief and loss process. Acceptance does not mean that you’ve completely moved on or healed from your feelings. Rather, it means that you’ve reached a stage where you’re at peace with your adoption decision and you’re ready to move forward. Feelings that you already experienced during the grief and loss process may crop up from time to time, but at this point, you are better equipped to deal with them if they arise. Whether you are still in contact with the adoptive family or not, you can rest easy knowing that you’ve made the best decision for you and your baby.

Placing a Baby for Adoption in Kansas

If you have any problems coping with your emotions during the adoption process or after placement, please don’t hesitate to reach out. And if you’re just getting started through your adoption journey but you’re ready to learn more contact our Kansas adoption agency to get in touch with an adoption specialist. Adoption Choices of Kansas serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071