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How to Choose an Adoptive Family 

By Tyler Jeremiah

The adoption process can be an overwhelming experience. From grappling with complex emotions to having to make life-altering decisions, it can be enough to stress anybody out. But if you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy in Kansas, you’ve come to the right place. Here at Adoption Choices of Kansas, our adoption specialists guide you through every step of this experience. This allows you to curate an adoption plan that works for you.

Birth Parents Have the Right to Choose

To begin, it’s important to know that, as a birth parent, you have every right and ability to choose an adoptive family that meets all of your criteria. And the beauty of the adoption process is that you can have whatever type of criteria you want. But there are three main types of criteria you should take into consideration when making this decision: lifestyle, values, and communication. 

Choosing an adoptive family that aligns with the lifestyle you want for your child can go a long way in helping you feel confident in your adoption decision. Try asking yourself these questions: what sort of family structure do you want in an adoptive family? Does this family live in an urban or rural environment? Does this family already have any other children? By contemplating these questions, you can determine which type of family structure works best for you and your child. 

Next, consider the type of values that you want your child’s adoptive family to have. If you are religious, maybe you would prefer that your child be raised in a family that shares your religion. The same goes for cultural heritage. If you come from a Hispanic household, for example, you may want your child to grow up with the same customs and traditions that you did. Another important thing to consider is how prospective adoptive parents plan on parenting your child. What sort of parenting philosophies do they adhere to? Do they align with your own? And, if not, is that a dealbreaker for you?

The Three Types of Adoption

Finally, one of the most important decisions you will make is deciding what level of openness you want in your adoption. Generally speaking, there are three types: open, semi-open, and closed. An open adoption allows you to remain in contact with your child and their adoptive family throughout their life, communicating through letters, photos, and, if desired, in-person meetings. A closed adoption, on the other hand, is when you forfeit your right to communicate with your child and their adoptive family entirely. Essentially, once the adoption is complete, you will no longer be in contact with your child. Finally, a semi-open adoption involves characteristics of both open and closed adoptions according to your own individual preferences. 

The type of adoption you choose is completely up to you. 

The Role of the Adoption Agency

Now, all of this can sound overwhelming at first. Trust us, we understand! But an important thing to remember is that you don’t have to make any of these decisions alone. Here are Adoption Choices of Kansas, our specialists are well-trained in guiding birth parents through these tricky choices. Furthermore, we have a number of helpful resources you can turn to if at any point you’re struggling to make a decision. 

Our catalog of prospective adoptive parents is incredibly detailed and thorough, allowing you to get more than just a glimpse at the type of life they would give your child. Furthermore, we help to facilitate conversations between you and the adoptive family so that they can answer any and all of your questions. 

Another reason why Adoption Choices of Kansas is a leading adoption agency in Kansas is because we help to financially assist our birth parents with medical costs, transportation, food, and housing. This allows birth parents who may be struggling to get the support they need, allowing them to focus on the adoption process without stress. 

We also encourage our birth parents to seek our professional mental health counseling should they desire it. Speaking to a therapist can help you work through any of your complicated emotions. A therapist can also give you the space to contemplate some of these important decisions you are making.

Contact Adoption Choices of Kansas Today!

As you can see, there is a lot that goes into the adoption process. As the birth parents, you have the opportunity to cultivate an adoption plan that works best for you and your child. By working with our adoption specialists, you can ensure that you pick the adoptive family that suits your needs and wishes.

If you’re currently pregnant and looking for guidance, don’t hesitate to reach out to Adoption Choices of Kansas today!

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