Life for Birth Parents After Adoption
By Jacob LaBau
Putting a child up for adoption is not indicative of never starting a family of your own. Plenty of birth mothers will eventually have children of their own to love. Placing your first child for adoption is perfectly normal. Adoption Choices of Kansas appreciates your courage throughout the entire adoption process! Feeling guilty for choosing adoption is also normal, but we have resources in place to get your life back on the right track!
Adoption Choices of Kansas offers mental health resources to ease negative thoughts for birth mothers. The first resource is counseling: one-on-one with a licensed therapist who will walk you through your justifiable emotions. The second resource is support groups: discussing your emotions with like-minded individuals who have undergone a similar experience. Both options will help you process your emotions, but each one is better for different birth mothers relative to their experiences. Figure out which would benefit you more by trying out both!
Ways to Cope After the Adoption
Besides the resources that Adoption Choices of Kansas offers, there are ways to proceed with life all on your own! Some of the options can be challenging to start due to your emotional well-being right now. But keep in mind that these emotions will not last forever. If you can endure placing your child for adoption, you can cope with adoption stress.
Ways to reduce adoption stress include:
Exercise is not only a great way to lose yourself in the moment, but it will also generate numerous neurotransmitters that will immediately affect your happiness. Exercise can take many forms; it is about moving and pushing your body to the limit. If you do not want to leave your house, a mat or a carpet will do just fine. Planks, push-ups, sit-ups, lunges, and squats are all great examples of workouts that can be done in your home! Like most things, starting to exercise is the most difficult part. Listen to what your body is telling you. You are the only one who knows your limits. If the intangible benefits of exercise sound appealing to you, learn how to put a child up for adoption and call us today!
If you are pregnant, exercising can be tricky. But do not let that stop you from achieving some level of physical activity throughout your day. Open your front door and go for a peaceful stroll! Again, nobody in this world knows you more than you do. Increase the amount of time spent walking once you feel comfortable enough to do so. Locate one of three adoption agencies in Kansas to begin your adoption plan today!
2. Accept Your Emotions Towards the Adoption Experience
A common mistake that people with mental health problems make is denying the emotions and thoughts that are running through their brains. The problem with doing this is that the thoughts are more likely to reoccur. Accept your negative thoughts with open arms. After accepting them, go one step further by challenging your negative thinking.
An example of a negative thought could be that you are a bad person for choosing adoption. First, understand why you are feeling that way. Are people telling you that you are a bad person, or do you truly feel that way? Once you realize the reasons for negative thinking, it will allow you to think positively about the negative thinking. Instead of constantly telling yourself that you are a bad person, your brain will become rewired to analyze potential solutions/new thinking. Find an adoption agency near you to begin your adoption journey. Check out some of our mental health resources to experience life as it once was!
3. Adoption Support Groups
Signing up for counseling or joining a support group will help you process the negative emotions you may be facing. Both options are free of charge, and it is up to you to sign up. Your adoption specialist will inform you of both options, but they will never force you to join.
Counseling will help you feel confident in your decision to pursue adoption and will reinforce your reasons for doing so in the first place! Counselors are there to help you, nothing more. Your best interest is always at play. The more effort you put into the meetings with your counselor, the more you will get back.
Support groups can be a great way for a birth mother to understand that she is not alone. You can either share your experiences with the group or listen to what the other birth mothers have to say. Do whatever works best for you! We understand how isolated pregnancy and adoption can be. Join a group of fellow birth mothers by identifying an adoption agency in Kansas that is near you!
4. Focus on the Positives Aspects of Choosing Adoption
The positivity of adoption is typically forgotten. The exceeding amount of negativity surrounding adoption outweighs the positives, making it difficult to remember why you chose adoption. Think about the adoptive family. You are making an adoptive family’s dream come true by pursuing adoption. They will be eternally grateful that you made a taxing sacrifice!
They will also love the child the same way that you do! Adoptive families are carefully examined by you and by us. Take your time throughout the adoption process to make an educated and precisely planned decision. Adoption Choices of Kansas is a responsive and trusting agency to work with. Put your trust in us. You will have no regrets!
Coping with Adoption
Eliminate your worries by trying out one of these coping methods. Your life may be dark and gloomy now, but a storm always passes in due time. The sun will shine once again, and you will be proud of yourself for finishing the adoption journey! If you are experiencing an unexpected pregnancy and would like to know more about adoption, we can help you. Choosing adoption is not giving up. If you need unplanned pregnancy help now, Adoption Choices of Kansas serves birth parents statewide and beyond. We can help with teen pregnancy, financial assistance, difficult situations, and more. Please call us or text us to learn more! Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071.