Misconceptions About Birth Mothers in Kansas Adoptions
By Katiara Potter
It’s not easy making the decision to put your child up for adoption. So many wonderful birth mothers make this courageous decision every single day. Every birth mother’s reasoning for choosing adoption may be different. Unfortunately, there is so much stigma surrounding placing a child up for adoption. Adoption Choices of Kansas is here to support birth mothers through the adoption process. We know this time may be difficult or stressful for you. You can also seek resources from other adoption agencies in Kansas as well. Birth mothers face many misconceptions about their decision to choose adoption.
1. Birth mothers that choose adoption don’t love their children
This misconception is simply untrue. Making the decision to choose adoption is not an easy one. Deciding to place a child up for adoption doesn’t mean the mother doesn’t love the child. It’s actually the opposite. Birth mothers love their children so much that they’re thinking about the decisions that will be best for their children. Especially since some birth mothers aren’t ready or able to nurture and provide for their children. Love is required to be able to say that your child deserves the greatest amount of nurturing and support. And it’s courageous to actively seek a family that can provide that for your child.
2. Irresponsible teenagers are usually birth mothers that choose adoption
Birth mothers that choose adoption come from many different walks of life. Some may be teenagers who are facing an unplanned pregnancy. Some may also be adult women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy. Birth mothers should not be shamed for their decision to place their child up for adoption. They also shouldn’t be shamed for their age or the life they choose to lead.
3. Birth mothers don’t want to be in their child’s life
This misconception is untrue for many reasons. One reason is that different types of adoption control how much a birth mother will be in her child’s life. These types of adoption and levels of communication are decided by the birth mother and the adoptive family. Open adoption allows for more communication between the birth mother and the child after the adoption. Also, as we stated previously, birth mothers choose adoption for many reasons. It’s not simply that a birth mother doesn’t want to be in her child’s life.
4. Birth mothers will be alone in the adoption process
Some birth mothers can have support systems through friends, family, and the birth father. Some may have support systems through adoption counselors and even the adoptive family chosen for the child. Birth mothers are never alone in the adoption process. Adoption Choices of Kansas and many other adoption agencies in Kansas are here to provide support if you need it. Contact an adoption agency near you if you need someone in your corner.
5. Birth mothers will ultimately regret their decision
Deciding to place a child up for adoption is a courageous choice but a tough one. Birth mothers go through the motions of love and loss through the adoption process. By the time an adoption is final, the birth mother already knows the pros and cons of adoption. She’s already had time to decide if adoption is right for her and her child. The adoption is final may cause sadness to the birth mother, but it doesn’t mean she’ll regret choosing adoption. In the end, she chose adoption so her child could have a better life. She made a decision out of love for her child. Her selflessness is honorable.
How Adoption Choices of Kansas Can Help
If you’re affected by any of these misconceptions, reach out to one of our counselors. You’re our priority, and your well-being is important. All of these misconceptions are judgments and aren’t based on any factual information. Counseling would greatly benefit birth mothers in this difficult time. Counseling would also be beneficial if you’re unsure about placing your child up for adoption. Reach out to one of our counselors to receive guidance on this process and your decision-making.
Birth mothers choose to place their children up for adoption for different reasons. Every person’s experience in the adoption process is different. There’s no right way to be or feel like a birth mother in the process. People judge birth mothers so fiercely, not understanding that birth mothers are brave in their decision.
The decision to give your baby a better life by placing them with a new family is courageous. When people come with their judgments, you know your truth. You know your reason for choosing adoption is valid. At this moment, your love for your child surpasses your love for yourself. We at Adoption Choices of Kansas stand with you. We stand by you. We’re here for you if you need any support or resources.
Choosing adoption is not giving up. If you need unplanned pregnancy help now, Adoption Choices of Kansas serves birth parents statewide and beyond. We can help with teen pregnancy, financial assistance, difficult situations, and more. Please call us or text us to learn more! Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071