Determining whether or not to place your child for adoption is a big decision — one that will impact you for the rest of your life. So, how do you know if it’s right for you?
Ultimately, you are the only one who can answer this question. As an expectant mother, you can do so by asking yourself these questions. Your answers will arm you with the knowledge and information necessary to decide if adoption is the right option for you and your baby.
- Why am I placing my baby for adoption?
Expectant parents place their children for adoption for all kinds of reasons. Not one answer fits every situation. So, the first thing you need to ask yourself is, “Why am I considering adoption?” Is this your decision or someone else’s? Are your money, relationship, family, or parenting problems temporary or long-term?
Focus on your situation today, and try to imagine how you’ll feel about your decision 20 years down the road. You can even try talking with birth mothers who have recently placed their children for adoption. They may give you a better idea about what to expect!
- Do I Fully Understand the Adoption Process?
Adoption is not “giving up on” or “giving away” your baby; it is choosing to give your child the best life possible — a life you may not be able to provide him or her at this point in time. You may think of adoption as an outdated, secretive process made popular through inaccurate TV and movie plots. However, modern adoption is very different. Adoption gives you the chance to choose parents for your baby, get to know them before giving birth, and even maintain a post-adoption relationship with them so that you’re able to watch your child grow up.
As a prospective birth mother, you will always be in charge of your journey. You should never feel forced into a decision!
- Are You Unable to Raise Your Child Right Now?
Can you be the mother that your child deserves? Being a parent comes with a lot of responsibility and sacrifice. Your child’s interests will always come first, and you may have to give up certain things in order to provide him or her with opportunity. If you have other life, financial, and career goals in mind, choosing to place your child for adoption is not selfish. In fact, you would be selflessly making the choice to give your child parents who are prepared for the responsibility of parenting. While also giving yourself the best chance at achieving your goals.
If you’ve thought about the emotional, financial, and physical responsibilities of raising a child, and you know that you cannot take on those burdens, adoption may be the best choice for you.
- Have You Thought Long and Hard About Your Adoption Decision?
No matter what suggestions and advice you receive from professionals, family, and friends, you are ultimately the only one who can answer the question, “Is adoption right for me?” This is a deeply personal choice, so it’s important that you research all of your options and think hard before making any life-changing decisions.
Adoption is not an “easy way out,” and neither is choosing to parent or getting an abortion. Each process comes with its own pros and cons to consider, and which one is right for you will always be determined by your personal situation.
- What if I change my mind?
Adoption is an emotional rollercoaster ride, so prepare yourself for plenty of ups and downs if you choose this option. There will be good days, bad days, and days of hope and despair. But it’s all a part of the process!
As for changing your mind, you can do so any time beforeyour baby is born. However, after you sign the relinquishment papers, your parental rights will be terminated. As a result, it’s important to know and understand your rights and responsibilities before you sign any legal documents.
Placing Your Child for Adoption
Determining whether or not to place your child for adoption will be one of the hardest decisions of your life. Just remember that it’s a selfless and brave decision to make, when it’s the right decision foryou.
Adoption Choices of Kansas is here to help you every step of the way! Give us a call, and we’ll help you examine all of your options.