8 Questions Birth Parents May Have When Considering Adoption
By Jaclyn Prasa
Thinking About Adoption?
It can be stressful for birth parents to decide if adoption is the right choice for an unexpected pregnancy. If you are not currently able to raise your child, then adoption is a perfectly loving choice. However, it may be one of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make. Therefore, you should know exactly what giving your baby up for adoption entails. Here you will find some common questions birth mothers or birth parents frequently ask.
Common Questions Birth Mothers Frequently Ask
1. How hard is it to give my baby up for adoption?
The process is not hard. It is quite easy. However, it involves a few steps. First, contact one of the adoption agencies in Kansas to begin the process. You will then be assigned an adoption counselor to assist you throughout your pregnancy, adoption, and post-placement.
The hard part about giving your baby up for adoption is the emotional impact. While adoption is the most loving choice you can make for your child, it may bring you some intense emotions such as grief, guilt, depression, or regret. It is not easy for a birth mother to give up their baby, so you must utilize your adoption agency’s support counselors. We promise that we will be here to help you cope.
2. Can I get paid for giving up my baby for adoption?
No, it is illegal for a person to be paid for their baby. However, the adoption process is of no cost. Once you contact Adoption Choices of Kansas, your adoption counselor will develop an adoption plan with you, which will consist of medical and financial assistance. This will guarantee that any of your pregnancy expenses will be covered. If you are struggling financially, we can assist in other areas, such as rent, phone bills, etc. Adoption Choices of Kansas helps birth mothers will various resources. Therefore, we will ensure that you will be financially supported during the adoption process.
3. Can I put my baby up for adoption after I have given birth?
Yes. You can put your baby up for adoption during any stage of your pregnancy. So whether you are in labor, have given birth, or have left the hospital and are home with your baby, it is not too late to choose adoption. Then, the adoption process will be relatively the same. You and your counselor will make an adoption plan, and you will choose one of our awaiting families who will lovingly and gratefully raise your baby.
4. Do I get to choose the adoptive family?
Yes, of course, you do. You have full control of your adoption plan. This means that you get to choose the family to raise your child. We have lovely families awaiting adoption in Wichita. Based on their profiles, you can choose the one that most resonates with you. It is your call. If you like that, their location is near yours, or if you like that, your child will have siblings, pets, etc. What matters is that the choice is yours so you can be sure that your child is getting the best home.
5. Will I get to see my baby again?
It depends on what you choose. There are three levels of openness within post-placement: open, semi-open, and closed adoption. If you choose either an open or semi-open adoption, then yes. That may vary depending on what you and your chosen adoptive family have agreed upon. If you agreed that you would be part of the child’s life, or maybe you agreed to be updated in emails and photographs. If you choose a closed adoption, then no. A closed adoption means no contact or communication between you and the adoptive family. You decide which level would work best for you.
6. Can I change my mind about the adoption?
Yes. Birth parents have the right to change their minds at any point in the adoption process. However, nothing is final until you sign the legal adoption consent. In the state of Kansas, consent time is 12 hours after birth. After those hours, birth parents can voluntarily terminate their rights to finalize the adoption. Once you sign, however, it is irreversible, and your chosen adoptive family has been given parental rights. When you contact Adoption Choices of Kansas, we will provide you with a legal advisor who can better explain your rights as a birth parent. That way, you will be equipped with every bit of information to be confident in your choices.
7. Will my baby hate me for placing them for adoption?
You are making an incredibly hard choice for the benefit of your baby. You know that you currently cannot give your baby all that you wish for them, and that’s why you are seeking adoption. It is a selfless and loving decision. You’re choosing a family that can provide a financially stable, adoring home, plentiful with opportunities. And depending on the openness you choose, you may even be able to develop a relationship with your child. This is a complicated and emotional thing. You act with all the love you can give, and your baby will understand one day.
8. Is adoption the right choice for me?
Adoption is a lovely choice. However, after research and contemplation, you must decide what feels right.
We want to ensure that this process is as simple for you as possible. When you contact us, Adoption Choices of Kansas can meet you where you are most comfortable – a coffee shop, your living room, or even on zoom. If you need financial assistance, we can offer it. If you need safe housing, we can offer that. We help with medical care as well as transportation. Our purpose is that you feel as comfortable and supported during this process. We know that giving up your baby for adoption is incredibly difficult. And we promise that your baby will be well cared for and well-loved.
Choosing adoption is not giving up. If you need unplanned pregnancy help now, Adoption Choices of Kansas serves birth parents statewide and beyond. We can help with teen pregnancy, financial assistance, difficult situations, and more. Please call us or text us to learn more! Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071