The 5 Steps of the Adoption Process in Kansas Adoptions: What a Potential Birth Mother Needs to Know
As a pregnant woman who is considering adoption, there are some important steps you need to know when just beginning your adoption process in Kansas. At Adoption Choices of Kansas, we have listed the five most important steps an expectant mother considering adoption will take. Adoption is a long road to travel, and taking the time to understand adoption as a whole while traveling down this road, is very important because you as a birth mother want to do the best for your child. We will ensure your voice as the birth mother will be heard with the kindness and care you deserve at our local Kansas adoption agency.
The Five Steps in the Adoption Process
- Pick your Adoption Agency
Choosing the right adoption agency that is right for you takes time to research and speak to the adoption professionals to find the right agency to be a good fit for you and your baby. At our Kansas adoption agency, Adoption Choices of Kansas, our birth parent counselors will guide you through your adoption process every step of the way. From helping you understand this difficult but beautiful decision to connecting you to other birth mothers who can support and help you along your adoption journey. Remember, you are never alone!
- Create Your Personalized Adoption Plan
Creating your unique adoption plan will let you be heard as a birth mother; you will control what type of adoption plan you choose, open, semi, or closed, the type of communication you want to have with your child and their adoptive family. In addition, your adoption plan will include what you want and don’t want, along with any questions/concerns during your adoption process. Now, your adoption plan will not be the same as other birth mothers, and that’s perfectly okay, as you are doing what’s right for you and your baby.
- Pick your Child’s Adoptive Family
Searching through adoptive parent portfolios will help you decide what kind of parents you want to raise your child. As a birth mother, you will want to list the major values/interests you want your child to learn from their adoptive parents, such as confidence or playing a sport. You may also want to decide if you prefer a two-parent or single-parent household and if you would be open to same-sex adoptive parents. Whichever adoptive parents/ parent you choose for your child will give them a chance to better life opportunities.
- Create your Hospital Plan
Your hospital plan is an important part of your adoption plan; letting the birth mother decide how open or private you want your labor and delivery is totally up to you. Some things to consider are:
- Who do you want in the room with you while you are in labor?
- Would you like to hold your baby right after?
- Would you want you or the adoptive parents to do skin-to-skin?
- Would you want you or the adoptive parents to take photos with your baby?
- Would you like the adoptive parents to have a private moment with the baby?
- Do you want to see the baby before he or she goes home?
Answering these questions may not be easy but consider them when creating your birth mother’s hospital plan as they are important. Your labor and delivery story is such a personal one, and answering these questions might help you feel more comfortable during this time, and you will be well prepared to answer these questions when the baby arrives.
- Create your Post Placement Plan
Creating your post-placement plan lets your child’s adoptive parents know how involved you will be in your birth child’s life. Set some common boundaries that your child’s adoptive parents also agree on as you are all a team working together to parent your child.
Advice for Birth Mothers who are considering Adoption
No matter where you are in your adoption process, remember you are not alone. We at Adoption Choices of Kansas will help you create a personalized adoption unique to you and your child. We will provide you with the tools to give a positive adoption experience and your child the best chance at a better life. Going through your adoption process may not be easy and may bring up a whirlwind of emotions along the way, but remember you are in control of your adoption, and you made this decision from your heart. The adoption process will be a process that will forever change your life, and our agency, Adoption Choices of Kansas, will help you accept and move toward this process, even after years to come.
Adoption Choices of Kansas serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more!
Meet the Author: Samara Wiley is a published author of poetry, essays, and an environmental children’s storybook called, Waiting for the Water Fairy. She graduated from Benedictine University in 2018 with a double Bachelor of Arts in English Literature and French. She has been published in three small poetry anthologies one was called Talented.
Her other writing accomplishments include: winning a high school poetry competition and $2500 for her high school, having two out of her five novels be considered for publication and writing movie critic reviews for her university’s newsletter.
Although she has Cerebral Palsy and has had a turbulent childhood, Samara puts these small specs of herself into her writing to personally connect with her audience. She prides herself on pushing the boundaries in her writing and in her personal life with everything she does. Samara writes with her heart and a voice of compassion, and loves to pull from her top passions in life.
She currently lives in Yorkville, Illinois with her mom and two sisters.