The Top 5 Signs You’ll Make A Great Mother
You wonder if placing your child for adoption means you have failed as a birth mother. You know deep down that choosing adoption is best for your child, yet you struggle with self-confidence and second guess yourself. What if you made a mistake? Are you a terrible mother now? Not at all! Quite the opposite as a matter of fact! Putting your child’s needs above your own and wanting him or her to have the best life possible makes you a great mother! We are not just saying that either, we firmly believe it and want you to know the truth!
To help put your mind at ease, Adoption Choices of Kansas would like to present our five signs you’ll make a great mother. All mothers struggle with their self-confidence at one point or another in their lives, and we want to assure you that if you are having doubts about yourself, that it is perfectly normal. We are here to help you, and we recognize that considering adoption can be an extremely painful thing to think about. However, it is best to think about what lies ahead at the end of the road. Your baby will be loved no matter what, but the first part in recognizing this is being able to successfully regain self-confidence. We hope that our list below helps you in recognizing yourself and your self-worth. Remember, we are always here for you throughout your entire adoption journey!
- You are Courageous
Any birth mother who places her baby for adoption has a very strong level of courage. For one, admitting that you are unable to give your child the life he or she deserves is not easy, and it can cause a considerable amount of stress. For another, the adoption process itself can feel scary, overwhelming, and emotional. But a great mother recognizes her personal challenges, faces her fears, and keeps her child’s best interests at heart. She finds strength in herself and keeps moving forward.
Birth mothers are among the most courageous, selfless and loving women we know. We feel honored to support each and every one who walks through our doors.
- You have Good Communication
Another sign that you will make a great mother is that you maintain good communication with your adoptive family, which means establishing a healthy relationship with them. When you place your baby for adoption, you do not just drop off your child and leave. You get to have a say in the adoption process, which includes selecting the single or couple who will raise your child. As a result of good communication, you can stay in frequent contact with the single or couple that you select. They will always be more than happy to provide updates. Remember, adoptive families genuinely want to adopt. Maintaining a strong connection, however, requires a strong two-way communication.
A great birth mother will stay in touch with her chosen adoptive family and will make an effort to really get to know her selected adoptive single or couple. Some things that you can do to improve communication includes understanding and asking questions, checking in from time to time to see how things are going with your child, and seeing how the adoptive family is working with him or her through methods such as virtual or in-person talks. Without good communication, how will you know?
- You use Discernment when Choosing an Adoptive Family
Gathering information to help you choose the adoptive family is one of the signs you’ll make a great mother. This shows that you have taken the time to select the adoptive family who will value your child and give them the best life possible. You listen to your instincts, ask questions, and learn about an adoptive parents’ background. You also seek advice from your caseworker when you need it. Furthermore, using discernment is necessary when deciding who will raise your child. All of this proves that you have the heart of a mother.
- You Love Your Child
A birth mother loves her child. She knows how to express that in a way that will be special to her baby. Whether that’s through singing or reading stories, a great mother observes her child and learns about his or her likes and dislikes. Birth mothers take the time to understand what her child, and from there, supports and loves them as they grow up. From the womb to placing your baby for adoption, you always keep what’s best for your child above all else.
- You Know What’s Best
Finally, a great birth mother knows what’s best for your child. As soon as she finds out she’s pregnant, she follows her doctor’s instructions with the right food, exercise, and sleep. She does all she can to make sure she stays safe and healthy, so her baby can experience the same. She sings lullabies, and talks to her child throughout the pregnancy, sharing how much she loves him or her ,and that she will continue to love her child no matter what.
A birth mother endures nine months of pregnancy and all that comes with it, even though she knows she is not the one to parent her child. She loves him or her, puts her child first, and wants them to have the best that life can offer them.
If you are worried that you won’t be a great mother, you are not alone. All mothers wonder this, and yet do an outstanding job of raising their sons and daughters. You are amazing, inside and out and are doing what you feel is best for your child. That by itself makes you an incredible mother!
Great mothers genuinely care for their baby, and any birth mother who does that is already a wonderful birth mother!
Adoption Choices of Kansas serves birth parents statewide and beyond, please call us or text us to learn more! Call Us 877-903-4488 or Text Us 316-209-2071 Author Bio: Hello! My name is Jason and I am an Editorial Intern for Adoption Choices for the Summer of 2020! To read more about Jason, click here!!
Author Bio: Hello! My name is Jason and I am an Editorial Intern for Adoption Choices for the Summer of 2020! To read more about Jason, click here!!