Three Tips For How to Have a Successful Transracial Adoption
Transracial couples are a wonderful type of couple to select when the time comes to select the best adoptive family to raise your baby. They are experienced, are of varying ages, and may already have children of their own. Choosing a transracial couple or individual is an option that you should keep in mind.
We know that your adoption will be successful should you choose a transracial adoptive family. In fact, we have three tips to share with you that will better help you with understanding transracial couples and individuals, and how to have a successful transracial adoption.
- You Inform Yourself
It’s important that you research all you can about transracial adoption and consult your adoption caseworker. You’ll want to make sure you understand the pros, cons and expectations of this type of adoption, especially if you want to place your baby transracially. For instance, ask yourself, what are your motivations for choosing transracial adoption? What are you hoping your child will experience?
Many birth mothers choose transracial adoption because they want their child to develop a stronger sense of acceptance, cultural identity and greater respect for others of varying races and ethnicities. If this sounds like you, are there any cultures you are particularly interested in? Be sure to let your caseworker know as this can help when you are choosing a prospective adoptive parent to raise your child. Then, ask the prospective parent(s) how they will approach certain topics with your child — racism, diversity and tolerance. Getting as much information as possible will ensure that you have a successful transracial adoption.
- You Communicate with Each Other
Communication is essential. It is key in solving issues in all kinds of situations. Adoption is no exception. Especially if you choose an open adoption agreement with your child’s adoptive parents, don’t hesitate to get to know them. To establish a strong and healthy relationship with them. This is another way to ensure your success moving forward.
In your first meeting, if you aren’t sure how else to start, introduce yourself. Share how you decided to place your baby for adoption, and what hopes you have for him or her. It’s always recommended that you come with a list of questions to ask the prospective adoptive parents as well, to help with any awkward silences. Know that this is natural, though, and both of you are likely feeling the same way. If you choose the individual or couple to raise your child, be sure to keep in touch with them through your adoption journey. If in person is not an immediate option, consider communicating with them virtually, through FaceTime, ZOOM or social media.
- Celebrate Your Cultural Differences
With transracial adoptions, it’s important that you acknowledge each other’s varying cultures. To show how dedicated and committed you are to your child’s adoptive parents, spend time researching their race, culture or ethnicity. Learn what’s important to them and why. Talk about your culture with them as well. Ask them what aspects interest them the most and how they will implement it into their daily lives once the adoption has been finalized.
Many adoptive parents strive to include your child’s birth culture into their family life through arts, crafts, music and food. If there are particular festivals or celebrations that are key to your culture, be sure to let them know. For instance, an important Hispanic holiday is Day of the Dead. In the Jewish culture, Hanukkah is a good one to keep in mind. Understanding, acknowledging and celebrating your cultural differences is essential in having a successful transracial adoption.
Can I Have a Successful Transracial Adoption?
Absolutely! Transracial adoptions are amazing and wonderful opportunities for birth and adoptive parents to expand their understanding of the world, and provides a chance for your child to learn about cultural identity, respect and acceptance. In fact, studies show that transracial adoptions are becoming more and more popular in the adoption industry.
We understand that the tips above are non-exhaustive. However, we believe they will point you in the right direction as you begin your adoption journey. Remember that Adoption Choices of Kansas is here to help. We want to have the most positive and empowering experience possible. Don’t hesitate to give us a call if you have any questions or concerns regarding how you can make your transracial adoption successful long term.
Meet the Author: Jason Legasse is a rising senior English major studying at Siena College in Loudonville, New York. He hails from the Albany, New York area, but has plans to relocate to sunny Venice, Florida with his mom come Fall. After completing his bachelor’s degree, Jason plans to study General Special Education at Meredith College, where he will earn a Master’s degree and use that to teach middle school Special Education.
Jason is a self-proclaimed introvert with Asperger’s who really enjoys writing. He has a huge passion for helping others, specifically those with disabilities. He is very excited to be working with Adoption Choices over the summer, and looks forward to learning more about the adoption process!