Every adoption is unique. Circumstances are different, people are different, we all have different perspectives, opinions, and insight. There are however, a few things that might ring true across the board and these are a few. Four birth mother’s gave us their ‘number one’ that they want YOU to know. Whether you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption, an adoptive family, or just learning about adoption, read on!
1. This Is Hard
Being a birth mother is not easy. Adoptive parents are often met with praise and admiration in society, but birth mothers don’t have the same experience. After adoption birth mothers not only have to deal with issues of bereavement, but also manage their status in society as a woman who “gave up” her child for adoption. The reality is she made a decision in which she felt was best for her child. She gave up nothing! She placed her child with a loving family and deserves the same praise and admiration.
2. Your Understanding Means The World
Birth mothers need to hear encouraging words from their chosen adoptive family – and from everyone in that matter! Sharing updates and love is appreciated through the adoption journey.
3. Things Change
Whether you start with a loose open adoption plan or a more structured relationship, it can develop and change overtime. Maintaining communication and respecting agreements is vital to a beautiful relationship.
4. Don’t Be Afraid To Reach Out
The adoption journey comes down to communication. It’s important for the birthmother and adoptive family to develop a bond. It’s also important to be respectful of space. Don’t be afraid to reach out, plan visits, and send emails or photos.
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