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What If I Change My Mind?

The decision to give a child up for adoption is an incredibly difficult and emotional one. Many birth mothers will often grapple with their choice. Even if they are considering adoption as the best option for both themselves and their children. Some birth mothers may even think “what if I change my mind?” Because of the nature of the decision, placing a child for adoption is often met with a lot of conflicting emotions. Sometimes a birth mother may even decide that adoption is no longer the best option. Below are some things to consider about the adoption plan if you decide to change your mind.

The birth mother has the right to change her mind. It is important to note that, regardless of how far along in the pregnancy and the adoption in Kansas process. No adoption is final until the papers are signed and the adoption is finalized in court. With this in mind, the birth mother can change her mind if she no longer feels that adoption is in the best interest of her child.

However, if you do decide to change your mind, it may become harder as you get farther in the process. For example, if a birth mother changes her mind after the birth but before the papers are signed. Some states will require that this decision be left to the court to decide who will get parental rights. Before making any decision, it is important to talk to an adoption professional through adoption agencies in Kansas. They will help connect you with the right resources. They will help walk you through the process, no matter how far along.

Initial Factors When Considering Adoption

While this decision is a difficult one, there are several factors to consider if you decide to change your mind. Have any of those changed? Some of the most common concerns are financial stability, future goals, ability to provide, confidence in parenting ability, or the life stage you are in. Sometimes, birth mothers may feel feelings of doubt that are temporary or lingering. If these feelings are lingering, it is important to consider why. A decision like this is incredibly emotional and should not be taken lightly. Because of this, it is important to consider what the best long-term plan is for both you and your child.

Changing Your Mind About Adoption

Once a birth mother changes her mind, the adoption is considered a “disruptive adoption.” This means that, for whatever reason, the adoption does not go through. These types of adoptions take an extremely emotional and mental toll on all those involved, including the birth mother, so it is important to talk to professionals and surround yourself with supportive people to get you through the process.

Ultimately, a birth mother has every right to change her mind and no longer consider adoption. There are many reasons a birth mother may choose to do this, whether it be that she no longer feels the adoptive family is the best fit for her child, she believes that she would be the best support for the child, or she no longer has the same limitations (financial or otherwise) that she once had. Regardless of the reasons why this process is highly emotional and will affect all parties involved, it is important to reach out to supportive resources and consider all of your options. This process can be filled with doubts and conflicting feelings, so it is important to make the decision that makes you feel the most confident and is the best choice for you.

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By: Julianna McKenna

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